Men don't know what they want or need. Society tells a man that he should be a "woman magnet", and that if women are not knocking at his door day and night asking for dates then there is something wrong. Men like to brag to one another about how they are successful in attracting women. Deep down, men know they want a woman who understands who they really are, and knows who they are, but in meeting new prospects men are always putting up a false front based on what he sees in the media and popular culture as what a "real guy" should be. If a woman feels that her man is "a keeper", how can she get through all the stuff and get him to propose. Marriage, as much as it is attacked today, is still the best chance for two people who love each other, and are truly committed, to have a secure and reasonably happy life.
It is up to women to understand male psychology, then do the hard work of understanding men and making the relationship work. Men, (and women), have three basic parts: a thinking and reasoning mind that is logical, an emotional part that is quick to judge, and an instinctive center that is even quicker to judge, in fact it makes almost instantaneous decisions in daily life. Men, even more than women, (and who knows why), have a very large disconnect between what they do and feel, and what they are thinking. Men can set up 'traps' for women without even consciously knowing about it. For instance, men are always giving women gifts or taking them out to nice restaurants, but if a woman accepts these 'objects of affection' without thoughtful feedback, then a man's instinctual/emotional center will tell him: " hey, this gal is just interested in my money", (she's only thinking about what I can do for her). The amazing thing about this is that the guy is often not even aware, on a conscious level, about what is going on. Everything happens "below the neck", so to speak.
The point I am trying to make is that although popular culture tells us that women are hard to understand, men can be equally hard, or even harder to understand, mainly, because men are just not aware of what they are truly feeling. This is probably because, according to society, men should be 'tough', decisive, macho, (that's a good one), and logical.
A woman, that loves a man unconditionally, needs to understand him. This is something that takes work, but work done upfront, is better than the pain that can potentially be experienced on the back end of a failed relationship or marriage. Besides, learning about what makes a man tick can really be fun!
It is up to women to understand male psychology, then do the hard work of understanding men and making the relationship work. Men, (and women), have three basic parts: a thinking and reasoning mind that is logical, an emotional part that is quick to judge, and an instinctive center that is even quicker to judge, in fact it makes almost instantaneous decisions in daily life. Men, even more than women, (and who knows why), have a very large disconnect between what they do and feel, and what they are thinking. Men can set up 'traps' for women without even consciously knowing about it. For instance, men are always giving women gifts or taking them out to nice restaurants, but if a woman accepts these 'objects of affection' without thoughtful feedback, then a man's instinctual/emotional center will tell him: " hey, this gal is just interested in my money", (she's only thinking about what I can do for her). The amazing thing about this is that the guy is often not even aware, on a conscious level, about what is going on. Everything happens "below the neck", so to speak.
The point I am trying to make is that although popular culture tells us that women are hard to understand, men can be equally hard, or even harder to understand, mainly, because men are just not aware of what they are truly feeling. This is probably because, according to society, men should be 'tough', decisive, macho, (that's a good one), and logical.
A woman, that loves a man unconditionally, needs to understand him. This is something that takes work, but work done upfront, is better than the pain that can potentially be experienced on the back end of a failed relationship or marriage. Besides, learning about what makes a man tick can really be fun!
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